Imagine all of your memories are upon cards - all of them - the good, the bad and the ugly. Positive people reread the good ones more often, they remind themselves and others of everyone's best traits. The bad or ugly ones they have reflected upon and come to a healthy form of acceptance, one that is both protective of the self and fair to others. Negative people ignore the good memory cards and keep the bad and ugly cards in easy reach. Thus when they are in any combative frame of mind they bring them up quickly and with force, surprising others, wounding others, creating negative emotions in those around them. And this is the power of positive thinking. By choosing your memory cards carefully, by learning how to process and let go of the bad and ugly memory cards, we can change ourselves and our relationships for the better.