General

If identity is a hallucination, then gender identity is the same (for everyone). This is why culture seeks to teach each gender who they are and give them a positive sense of self. Until the brain has reached a level of maturity, gender identity is more external to internal than the reverse. Thus while the adult can freely choose their gender identity, the child needs theirs positively confirmed until they reach true maturity.

By Angela Abraham, @daisydescriptionari, October 25, 2020.
General

If we let gender expand beyond the binary of male and female we can solve a lot of issues. For instance, we can have male-male, male-female, neutral, female-male, and female-female. What these allow for is to show more the balance of the person and how they identify. We can add into this trans-female and trans-male, thus seven gender identities. Thus instead of a "territory fight" over words, we make more that feel good, let folks choose and support one another. That said, because of the way human brains develop, it is important for the words "male" and "female" with their traditional definitions to remain dominant in media, stories and society (with extra options giving room for personal development from puberty onwards). Otherwise we run the risk of developing a confusing world for our children instead of one that helps them develop optimally. With kids - keep things simple - keep the adult world to the adults. When they are ready to grow up they can give up Santa and gain a more interesting adult world that will support them whatever their gender identity.