You say you're gonna hurt me as a joke and I see that you realise it acts as a sort of psychological control. So I will respond as the soft everyday-cruelty it really was. My anger when you are selfish is justified, though I will work on responding with greater calmness. So don't joke that I'm a crazy woman, or that it's my 'time of the month,' or say you'll call the cops when I've done nothing to warrant that. "Jokes" such as those are the hallmarks of dysfunction and disrespect. I am free to help whom I choose, a person worth of respect. And so I edit your threat out and choose to show self respect and self love, to keep myself strong.