They say, "be the sky, not the weather." I can do that because I'm a grown up. For those below their early twenties the brain finds that challenging... it's a brain maturation thing. This being the sky, letting the weather pass, is a form of duality. You will always feel the weather unless you run off to some monastery or mountain retreat. If you want to be a hero and play in the big leagues, get used to letting your personal weather pass unremarked... no seeking of comfort... yet accepting the assistance that is offered from those who love you. Duality is the gift and the curse. Take it, or don't. Your choice.