psychological maturation - quotes and descriptions to inspire creative writing
A key part of becoming more psychologically mature was to learn psychological independence. For that I needed to relate my relationships with every person only back to myself and not to any others. My interaction with each of them was a separate thing and they had the rights to interact with whomever they wished. That's when real self respect happens and you feel that you can rely on yourself, to trust yourself to see situations with greater clarity. A need to control others in a physical or emotional manner, or to control how others see them and treat them, is immaturity. Feeling a responsibility for others, to help create a stable environment of greater love and protection for the vulnerable, to let your inner hero out, is maturity. We are born to become the "wise chief" - with the courage to belong and the courage for independence. For only then have we truly left the cocoon of childhood and learned to fly. So now, after all those years of learning through self reflection, away from the social poisons of our era, I'm ready to explore the sky and feel the sunshine in the upper reaches.
To mature one's psychology requires ongoing effort for a lifetime, otherwise, like the ignored muscle, it can wither.
To mature one's psychology is an effortful process, regardless of where you start from, if you make the effort you will arrive at your destination - a wise person fully capable of loving and protecting both the self and others.
When I'm feeling triggered the world and everyone it is behind fifty feet of glass. Loving bonds become inaccessible. In this mode I have to take great care not to damage bonds of love, the relationships and people who are everything to my heart and soul. For in time the glass disappears and my love returns. I wish I could stop the triggering, but if I feel unprotected or left to fend for myself it returns - it is survival mode, cold and indifferent. Yet even in these times I am cognisant of my morality. I still make good choices. I can still imagine what the better version of me would want me to do and then carry that out. I can't undo the trauma I've been through, but I can adapt and overcome.