push and pull relationships - quotes and descriptions to inspire creative writing
Push and pull relationships are the result of the triggering of survival mode and the reinstatement of love (cooperation) mode. Awareness of triggers can help shorten the "push" and reduce its impact.
It's challenging in personal relationships when one or both partners is triggered into survival mode. It makes empathy and trust challenging. It can cause partners to question the reliability of the love of the other. The best you can do is be aware of when you are in survival mode, tell your partner that you've been triggered, and have a plan in place between you for these situations - because they are inevitable after childhoods of great suffering.